Two households, both
alike in . . . some ways, in “the fair hood” where I lay this scene. . .
Blending independent adult lives into one home step 1:
AARH - The Concept of “Stuff”
i.)
Accept that you both have stuff. A whole lotta stuff. Some of the stuff is alive with four legs and
weighs in at over 100 pounds. Add
another one just to see what happens!
Living stuff should have its own post in the future (see future post).
ii.)
Assess your stuff. Is that stuff as important as the space that
it occupies? Probably not. Garbage, donation, bonfire, for sale, box in
the basement (last resort)? These are
your options. Choose wisely. May the stuff be with (or without) you.
iii.)
Respect that their stuff is as important to them
as your stuff is to you (even if that six-inch candle with its googly-eyed face
gives you the heebie-geebies each time you walk into its room). Embrace its story of origin and
significance. Seek therapy.
iv.)
Hide bits of their stuff. If they don’t miss it in a few months consider
your disposal options.
These points may help you as they have helped me, in my transition into shared home coupledom. Remember: love the stuffer, hate the stuff. :)
To be continued. . .
hahaha....I think you should write a self help book! You clearly have the talent, don't let it go to waste!
ReplyDeleteps. good luck with it all!
You forgot:
ReplyDeletev.) Make piles of the stuff. You never quite know when you might need that cord, that small piece of wood, that ... And besides, if you pile it just right it kind of looks like art. Trendy.
Dear TFradsham:
DeleteYou are quite right, "stuff" without "piles" is a weakness in my conceptualization of stuff. Thanks so much for your valuable input. :P